Updated: Dec 31, 2021
Feeling connected and in love is the best feeling in the world. You have the spring in your step, you feel invincible, like you can do anything. Yet we all live busy lives and that connection can begin to fade, leaving you feeling disconnected and unhappy. That's why being intentional in your relationship is important. If you want to maintain the feelings you had in the beginning, you need to do the things you did in the beginning. I know, seems overly simple right, but in order to keep your love and connection alive, you have to spend time connecting.
I know over time, it can be easy to forget what you used to do together. Spend some time reminising over your favorite memories to see what's been the most impactful in your relationship and do more of that. Research has shown that doing new things together strenghtens your relationship. It also encourages you to get out of your comfort zone.
So let's look at some fun ideas you can do to connect more with your partner. Regular "Date Nights" are important and you can take turns planning them. It's also a great idea to brainstorm a whole bunch of ideas and put them in a jar, and when you can't randomly draw date ideas.
1. ROMANTIC PICNIC - Now that the weather is getting nice, and even when it isn't, plan a romantic picnic with your beloved. Spread out a blanket in the living room, back yard or somewhere secluded. Bring a bottle of wine, some yummy food and maybe seductively feeding each other some chocolate covered strawberries and have some relaxing time together reminiscing of when you first met and some of your favorite memories together.
2. COUPLES NEWYLWED GAME - round of some of your favorite couples you miss hanging out with and challenge them to a virtual round of the Newlywed Game! You can all submit questions a head of time and the host randomly draws questions and each couple has a note pad and shows their answers and you award points to whoever guessed correctly.
3. WATCH THE SUNSET TOGETHER - there is so much beauty when you can get away from the city and find a quiet spot to watch the sun set and take in all the amazing colors of the sky while sharing what you are most grateful for.
4. GO FOR A WALK AND HOLD HANDS - this might be common practice for some of you, but for others they have lost the art of holding hands and it's such a beautiful way to connect with each other. We love physical touch so we always hold hands. Getting out to walk keeps you healthy and connected.
5. SLOW DANCING - take a moment to put on "your song" and grab your love and slow dance with them right in the middle of the kitchen or living room while gazing into their eyes reminding them how much you love them and what they mean to you.
6. MAKE A ROMANTIC DINNER TOGETHER - make something you don't always cook, get some candles on the table and play some soft music while the lights are dimmed. You'll be surprise how lovely that will feel.
7. WATCH A ROMANTIC OR INSPIRING MOVIE TOGETHER - watching a movie that will invoke emotions and give you something to talk about after. Make sure you cuddle in with a cozy blanket and some popcorn and make it like your first movie date. Some of our favs are The Shack, The Blind Side, Greater, I'm Not Your Guru, Call to Courage, & Chasing Greatness which are all on Netflix I think.
Life is too short not to have fun. It's important to laugh and be playful with each other. We are constantly making each other laugh. We really enjoy taking pictures together and we make sure to always have some goofy fun ones. Sometimes it's when I'm trying the get the perfect picture, that I get his goofy faces, so then I decide to play along.
BE PLAYFUL WITH EACH OTHER!
So take the time to re-connect with each other in a deeper and more meaningful way. If you are looking for more ways to improve your relationship check out our Communiticate Your Needs & Wants Workbook. This comprehensive workbook will take you step-by-step through the questions you need to ask yourself and your partner and then you can share your answers in a loving, safe way.
Couples share with us that their #1 challenge is Communication. What we have discovered is that often each person hasn't asked themselves the right questions, so they don't know how to communicate what they want and need to each other, which creates misunderstandings, confusion and disconnect. That doesn't have to be your reality.